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Why are you offended? It's just a joke

March 30, 20235 min read

“I love inside jokes. I'd love to be part of one someday .” - Michael Scott

Introduction:

Offensive jokes are a controversial topic that has been the subject of much debate in recent years. Some people argue that offensive humor is a form of free speech and should be protected, while others believe that such jokes can be harmful and hurtful to certain groups of people. In this blog post, we'll explore the pros and cons of offensive jokes, and whether they have a place in our workplace.

On the one hand, offensive jokes can be seen as a way to break down barriers and bring people together. When done right, they can be a way to tackle sensitive issues in a lighthearted manner and create a sense of camaraderie among people from different backgrounds. For example, comedians like Dave Chappelle and Sarah Silverman have built their careers on pushing the boundaries of what is considered acceptable humor and using their platforms to address difficult topics like race, gender, and sexuality.

On the other hand, offensive jokes can also be incredibly harmful, especially when they target marginalized groups. Jokes that rely on stereotypes or derogatory language can reinforce harmful attitudes and perpetuate discrimination. What might be a harmless joke to one person can be deeply hurtful to another, and it's important to be mindful of the impact that a 'joke' can have on another person. Offensive jokes can create a very unwelcoming environment which can damage workplace dynamics, decreasing productivity and office morale.

Humour

Humor is an important part of our daily lives. We find things funny because humor is a way for our brains to process unexpected or incongruous information. When something doesn't meet our expectations, our brains release neurotransmitters that create a feeling of pleasure and reward, which we experience as laughter. Additionally, humor can serve as a coping mechanism and a way to bond with others.

People have different senses of humor because humor is subjective and influenced by various factors such as culture, upbringing, personality, and life experiences. What one person finds hilarious, another may not find funny at all. Ultimately, humor is a complex and individualized experience that varies from person to person.

Jokes in the office

Some might wonder why it's inappropriate to tell an offensive joke to a group of adults at the office, when there are comedians making millions from telling racist, sexist or other offensive jokes. Well, here's my take on it....

  • Comedians are not liked or appreciated by everyone. Just like we all have different types of humour, there is a specific niche that pay to listen to their jokes.

  • An offensive joke is automatically awkward and/or inappropriate when told by someone in a higher position of power. It is nice for leadership to have a good sense of humour but, "Read the room Michael." (source: At least 50 episodes of The Office)

  • Offensive jokes require good rapport between the joker and audience so that people are laughing with each other, not at one another. Russell Peters is a comedian that does this very well - he jokes about himself and his own race so when he aims jokes at another culture, everyone is laughing together.

So, what can you joke about?

Instead of telling offensive jokes, try to be more mindful of the impact your words can have on others. Think about how your words might be perceived by people from different backgrounds and experiences. Consider whether your joke relies on a stereotype or derogatory language, and if it does, consider whether it's worth telling.

Instead of telling offensive jokes, try to use humor that is inclusive and uplifting. Humor can still be funny without targeting specific groups of people or perpetuating harmful stereotypes. Try to find humor in everyday situations or in the quirks and foibles of human nature. Jerry Seinfeld has made a killing pointing out the obvious in everyday situations! And if you do make a mistake and tell an offensive joke, apologize and try to learn from the experience.

What should you do if you hear someone tell an offensive joke?

It can be challenging to know how to respond, particularly if the person telling the joke is someone you know or respect.

One option is to call out the behavior and explain why the joke is offensive. You can do this in a respectful and non-confrontational way, focusing on the impact of the joke rather than the intention behind it.

Another option is to simply remove yourself from the situation. You don't have to stay and listen to offensive jokes, and it's okay to walk away if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

One of the best ways to prevent offensive jokes in the workplace is to establish clear policies and guidelines around appropriate behavior. This can include creating a code of conduct that outlines expected behavior from all employees, as well as implementing training programs that teach employees about unconscious biases and how to avoid inappropriate behavior.

It's also important for managers and supervisors to lead by example and model respectful behavior. They should intervene if they witness or hear about offensive jokes or other inappropriate behavior in the workplace. Employees should feel comfortable reporting incidents of offensive behavior to their managers or HR department without fear of retaliation.

In conclusion, offensive jokes in the workplace can have serious consequences for employees and the organization as a whole. By creating clear policies, providing training, modeling respectful behavior, and promoting a culture of inclusion, organizations can create a more positive and productive work environment for everyone.

If you have any feedback of opinions I'd love to hear them! Yes, even if you disagree with me.

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Tarah Lynch

Tarah Lynch, Ph.D is a scientist and founder of Diversity Scientific.

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